Anonymous Thu, 4 Mar 14:07 Report Abuse

Hey Ayanda, well having standards goes close with being superficial and i totally getting where you are coming from girlfriend... ;) i myself don't consider me being a Halle Berry or anything but i myself would love a gorgeous hunk(of sorts) by my side like most men but then again those kind of hunks a looking for the gorgeous models at their sides. so its a vicious circle and don't think us "normal" woman will really win that battle ;)

Yeahna Tue, 9 Mar 14:43 Report Abuse

Ayanda..hun halle baerry or no halle berry i ain settling for nothing less im settling for the best..fullstop
why is it that women wanna give man the benefit of a doubt..screw that those days are over if he doesnt like me the way i am now "aycace" that he probably wont ever like me for who i am but the will always be something he would like too change about..me..askies bhuti you got another thing coming...so to all my ladies and fellas dont put yourself in a predicament..where you find yourself waking up next to your worst nightmare...thich and thin baby we all have our match out there..(^^,)

Anonymous Thu, 18 Mar 12:31 Report Abuse

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:

'What kind of man are you looking for?'

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking,
'Do you really want to know?'

Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.

She began to expound,’
As a woman in this day & age,
I am in a position to ask a man what you can do for me that I can't do for myself.

I pay my own bills.
I take care of my household without the help of any man...
or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, '
I am not referring to money.
I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.

She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect... In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business.
I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me.
He will recognize himself in me.
He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.
God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help him self.

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot.

She replied, "I'm worth a lot".

Anonymous Thu, 18 Mar 12:32 Report Abuse

Selth worth was by me by the way - Santana van der Poll.... You are awsome Ayanda. mwa